Celebrating Your Mother’s Memory

May 8, 2016

Holidays are often a time for family, friends and steeped in traditions handed down from generation to generation or lovingly created, sometimes by accident. All of these build on a rich legacy of celebrations throughout the year. The loss of a parent can be overwhelming and each holiday throughout the year can serve as a magnifying glass for your grief—putting it in the spotlight and reminding you of what is now missing from your life.

While you may expect this magnification of pain while leading up to the major holidays throughout the year, you may find that it's the smaller celebrations that take you by surprise, especially when that holiday is Mother's Day. Don't be surprised if you find this day that is set aside to honor and celebrate the love of your mother to be emotionally charged when she's no longer residing in the Earthly realm.

Even if you can no longer send her flowers, take her to brunch or just call her and ask about her day, there are many ways that you can honor her memory and celebrate her irreplaceable role in your life, even after she's passed.

Let Her Memory Bloom

If your mother loved to garden or loved a particular flower, you could spend your Mother's Day planting a garden in her memory. You can reserve a special spot in your yard for this endeavor or create a new container garden with her favorite flowers each year. This tradition may be a wonderful way to keep her memory alive and celebrate the beauty of spring.

Set the Table for Remembrance

While you might have family pictures placed lovingly around your home, take this day to set your favorite picture of your mother at your table and invite her spirit to join you for a family meal. Maybe even make a dish that brings the memory of your mother to life. Did you love her grilled cheese when you were sick or did she make the best pot roast? Serve the foods and dishes that make you feel connected your mother.

Connect with Others

Unfortunately, you are not the only person who has lost a mother. Reach out to friends and family who may be in the same position as you and create a special event. It can be as simple as a potluck picnic in a park or as elaborate as a formal dinner you wish, but can give you and others the opportunity to share memories of your mothers and share the love. Another way to connect with others and share love is to donate your time and efforts to a local charity that your mother supported. This donation can be a wonderful way to continue the legacy of love.

It's important to celebrate your mother's life and the love that she gave you as you make your way in the world without her. Allow these ideas to inspire you to find unique ways to celebrate the most important woman in your life.