Appearance and Love CompatibilityOctober 11, 2013
In every area of life, we must rely on our own instincts and intuition to guide us in our decision making processes. Making the right choice can make your mind, body and soul soar. However, if your instincts are off, or if you have been blinded in some way, you could be making the same poor choices over and over again. This repetitive negative pattern could ultimately become a very destructive force in your life. This is especially true when it comes to romantic partnership and love.
Choosing a partner because you feel as though you “should” be with this person, or this type of person, can turn out to be a horrible mistake in the long run. Instead of focusing on the outside world for opinions about your mate, or potential mate, turn inwards instead. This is the source of your real feelings about what you consider to be attractive in a future partner.
Try not to get caught up in media portrayals of “beautiful and interesting people,” and do not abide by the arbitrary viewpoints and guidelines created by your friends and family. Only you can know who is suited for you and who is not. Adhere only to your own standards and rules.
Additionally, although looks can be an important deciding factor when choosing a date or mate, keep in mind that looks are far more prone to alterations and changes than personalities are. Whether they are “good” or “bad,” looks are always extremely temporary.
Take a few minutes and think about how easy it is to change clothes, don accessories, get or lose a tan, have your hair cut or colored or to change weight (up or down). These are just a few examples of things that can be done to drastically change any persons’ outward appearance.
Now, as a contrasting thought, think about how difficult or downright impossible it would be to change your deepest fears, your favorite food, your musical preferences, your political opinions or your views on religion.
These simple examples should be an eye opening exercise for you. When you apply this concept to the field of relationships, it can become much easier to either accept the personality of the person your with (as opposed to trying to change them) or to look beyond the physicality or personal style of the person you are interested in dating. The reality of any long term relationship is that both people will go through different phases of health, finances and hygiene, all of which can have a drastic effect on outward appearance.
As the old adage goes, “It’s what’s on the inside that counts.” If you immediately dismiss potential partners, or your current partner as being unsuitable for you physically, you may miss out on the best relationship of your life. If necessary, go back and look at some old photos of yourself, or some of your lifelong friends. This should really emphasize how much appearance can, and will, change over time.